OOTD - My Anniversary :)

Hey guys! What a weekend I've had. It involved lots of eating out, cinema, shopping & fun times! Haha. Today is my firs...

Hey guys!

What a weekend I've had. It involved lots of eating out, cinema, shopping & fun times! Haha.

Today is my first wedding anniversary. And I can't believe how quick the time has flown by. We went out for meal, the usual sort of thing to do for an anniversary :)

Mr Designer Spray bought me a nude swallow print blazer from H&M which I ADORE! And I'm quite impressed with his choice, I've never actually spotted this before in H&M or I'd have bought this as soon I I laid eyes on it. He just knows me too well. :)

Lo' & behold, here is the outfit:

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Nude swallow print blazer - H&M (Courtesy of the Mr :D)
Gold plaited belt - Topshop
Black lace slip dress - Topshop
Heart tights - New Look
Diamante black panther ring - River Island

A bit about me & the Boy

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As most of you can probably tell, I am of Indian origin. And my husband is white. We've been together for just over 4 years. At first, it was tough with amount of abuse from random passers-by (mainly of Pakistani/Indian origin). It was hard to take at first. It made me really angry and upset. What kind of comments would I get? How about: "What happened? Did all the Pakistani men die?"

The obvious response in my head would be: "Well if they're anything like you, I wouldn't touch them with a 20 foot bargepole!"

Now, it does not really bother me much at all. I pity their shallow mindedness. And feel that I'm extremely lucky that I have the choice of being with someone that I actually love as opposed to meeting a stranger once or twice then get hitched. Not saying there is anything wrong with that, but I never understood it and don't think I could do it.

I also get the same kind of people tutting at me or even ask me as to why I don't wear "asian" clothes 'cause apparently that's not how "asian" girls are supposed to dress. To be honest, I find it quite humourous. Asking me questions like that will not make me more likely to start wearing what they want me to. I actually feel sorry for them. 1) Maybe because they're jealous they don't have the freedom of choice like I do & 2) If they're male, they're just shallow, sexist c**ts. HELLO! This is Britain. If you do not like the lifestyle here, please feel free to catch a plane to a destination which is more suited to your 'taste'. 

Today we have reflected on the time we've been together. And the conclusion of it was, it was bloody worth it. I have the freedom of working, dressing how I please, going where I want, doing what I want and last but not least, actually being with someone that I LOVE. :D

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Large love for the Mr ♥




P.S - The lipstick is So Chaud by MAC. Seriously obsessing over orange lippies at the moment. :)

Lima is a Northern girl who chose life. Fashion and Makeup to her are just a little bit of fun, because life is already way too serious as it is. She's all about colour, because colour breaks down barriers, opens up the mind to new possibilities and makes everything feel a bit brighter.

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41 comments

  1. Anonymous6 March 2011 at 21:39

    Lovely cardigan :) had a feeling it was H&M!

    For my blog - click here! :)

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  2. Steph & The Spaniels6 March 2011 at 21:40

    oh my gosh, how lovely are you both. Got your self a fittie there ;)
    I hope you had a lovely day, and I'm so happy for both of you, and I'm glad you're able to just ignore all the negative comments. I think the main thing, who ever you are, where ever you live or what colour your skin is & what culture you come from- is that you're happy- and it is very obvious that you are
    xo

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  3. Anonymous6 March 2011 at 21:43

    Happy Anniversary! You guys look so cute xx

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  4. Inner Belle6 March 2011 at 21:46

    aww hun this is such a beautiful post! dont let the them drag you down, be positive,live ur life & not the way others want u to. i love ur positive attitude, screw the backward people! my aunt is married to a white man,infact i have a few white peepz in our family and they are treated no different. truth is they can learn to accept it or fuck off! lol

    ps u shud move to london - cultures more deverse here :D (not jus saying becoz us bloggers wouldmuch rather u here lol)

    congrats huni xxx

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  5. Kaushal6 March 2011 at 21:48

    That's so sweet. Always follow your heart and do what you feel is right for you. But most importantly, never give a crap about what other people will think or say... Because at the end of the day, if you do something 'bad' people will talk and if you do something 'good' well, they'll still talk! Some people clearly have no lives! Lets spread the love!! Lol looks like you had a lovely anniversary! xx

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  6. Roshni6 March 2011 at 21:49

    aww this is such a lovely post! I'm so happy that you chose what was right for you! I hate how asian people (in general) are so narrow minded! Life's too short to worry about what other people think! xxxxx (Btw you look stunning!) xxx

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  7. The Postcolonial Rabbit6 March 2011 at 21:54

    Happy anniversary!!! you're such a lovely couple!

    My bf is Hindu-Gujarati and I'm Muslim-Bengali - that is a whole other kettle of intercultural fish I wasn't expecting! in fact it's causing more problems (with extended family) than my sister whose bf is white. Peculiar, non?

    But there are also sooo many assumptions made about Muslim girls of Asian origin. You like indie music, really? You wear short skirts, really? You're allowed to drive, really? (seriously, my - white- ex's 80 year old aunt asked me the last one). Asian men don't seem to get the same hassle, at all.

    Sorry for being ranty on such a happy occasion though! I've been at a conference on Palestinian resistance all weekend. I'll get off me postcolonial-femminist soapbox and just say that jacket is hot, your boy ace, and that lipstick awesome. x

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  8. rosapelsblog6 March 2011 at 21:56

    i really love ur style !

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  9. Cynthia Z6 March 2011 at 21:58

    Aww...so cute! Happy Anniversary to u both! U look fab in the outfit <3
    I know how judgemental (and jealous!) people can get! They should really mind their own business.

    ♥xx♥

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  10. Laura Joanne6 March 2011 at 22:07

    Love your outfit, the cardigan is lush. Haven't seen that either and I work in H&M!!

    Completely understand what you said about people being against mixed relationships and asking why etc. Argh so annoying. I would much rather be with someone I love than marry some randomer I've known for 5 minutes! Glad that you 2 are loved up and celebrating an anniversary, congrats :) x x

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  11. White Bazaar6 March 2011 at 22:12

    You look gorgeous, congratulations! I know only too well what it's like to be with someone you don't love, however that's all in the past and I'm really happy now! You make a lovely couple, no-one has the right to judge anyone! xxx

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  12. Monika6 March 2011 at 22:13

    Yay for the swallow print blazer.
    What a lovely post, so happy for you Halima! The pictures are so sweet.
    I just don't understand why people give such a crap, I get 'the stares' and dirty looks all the time haha but at the end of the day it doesn't matter as long as your happy, their the one with problems.

    & the lifestyle thing seriously can't have said it any better. Why be here if they don't like it!
    xox

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  13. Sherrie 6 March 2011 at 22:23

    Love the blazer and the ring and the belt.. well love everything actually!! x

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  14. Unknown6 March 2011 at 22:24

    Hot hubbie! Happy Anniversary, loving your attitude to the narrow minded fools xx

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  15. Rhamnousia @ Desi Girl Does Makeup6 March 2011 at 22:28

    I have the same comments re. me and Simon and it's not even from strangers, it's from my dad's side of the family but their opinions don't mean anything to me. It's odd because they were all born here so you'd think they'd be open minded..yet my mum's family in India have accepted him as one of their own..

    Anyway, congrats on your anniversary! Simon once bought me a swallow themed top but it was nowhere near as classy as that. If you Google swallow tshirt, you will surely see what it was. Picture of matureness is he.

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  16. Marie a la Mode6 March 2011 at 22:33

    First of all you look gorgeous! I love your cardigan and your belt! Second of all, good for you for living the life you want and loving who you want. Life's too short to be unhappy, right? Congratulations on your first anniversary!

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  17. EllysMakeupbag6 March 2011 at 22:35

    aw you are too cute!

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  18. GeorgiaP - formerly WelshBeautyBlog6 March 2011 at 22:40

    Happy Anniversary...love the cardigan xx

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  19. MyFashionAddictions6 March 2011 at 22:47

    Honestly I didn't think that you where Indian. So am I! :D And yes I know what it's like to deal with strange looks from people when you date someone outside your race. I thought England was more used to interracial dating -as I've heard it called.

    Now that I know you're Indian somehow I think it's even cooler that you have piercings and dress however you want! :D

    At the end of the day you have to live your life the way you please so you're happy. As long as families don't make things even more complicated, it's all good.
    I'm also in an interracial relationship.

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  20. Sheefa F6 March 2011 at 22:52

    awwwww love ya story :) I totally agree how Asian women (and men!) would keep pestering girls about their spouse choice. I totally ignore it and do what I like. Rebelious ain't we haha. I cannot stand the thought of meeting some guy for a month or two and then gettin married to him. Just freaks me out :S

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  21. Zahra6 March 2011 at 22:59

    Congratulations. I love the pics at the end. You make such a nice couple. xx

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  22. Shivani6 March 2011 at 23:26

    You guys make a beautiful couple, maybe they are just jealous of that fact. I can't believe people would go to the extent of letting you know about it too. Anyways, happy anniversary to you guys! And I love your style :)

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  23. Caz6 March 2011 at 23:27

    Happy Anniversary! You make a lovely couple :) I love the swallow blazer you got too xx

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  24. alamode7 March 2011 at 01:15

    What a sweet post! It's such a different perspective from what I experience. Here in the States, people don't seem to think much of interracial Asian/Caucasian relationships. I guess it's different in England. I always thought of England as so much more open minded than America.

    You and your husband are beautiful together! If you have found someone you are happy with, I'll bet those people who make comments are jealous. Imagine finding someone you love so much that cultural boundaries, which others find so strong, no longer exist. That's beautiful and inspiring.

    I have enjoyed reading your blog and remember when you posted your wedding pictures. You looked so happy! I wish you many more years of happiness (and blogging... of course)!

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  25. PeachesandBlush7 March 2011 at 05:13

    I love yr blazer..your guy picked that out???????? he needs to give some tutorials to my guy!

    The last pic is so adorable..bless you both !!!

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  26. Ola7 March 2011 at 14:57

    Oh didn't know you were married, such a cute couple :) Ignorance is everywhere, if your happy then all is well!
    x

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  27. Abbie7 March 2011 at 16:51

    This was such a lovely post to read and Happy Anniversary Halima! You look too cute in that blazer xx

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  28. The Dollymix Diaries7 March 2011 at 17:40

    Congrats on your anniversary!!! Gosh i loved reading this post and it actually made me laugh and tear up at the same time. You both look so cute together and all that matters is that YOU are happy, remember nothing else matters.You look gorgeous sweetie x x x

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  29. Truly Madly Beauty7 March 2011 at 19:56

    Lovely post hun! Happy Anniversary to both you lovelies! :)

    Love Aysh xoxo

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  30. Uma Mageswari Preve8 March 2011 at 09:45

    You go girl. That's the attitude. I am a Singaporean Indian married to a Swedish man. I had similar issues. But who gives a damn. We love our husbands and it's all worth it!

    You look great btw. Happy Anniversary!

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  31. Selma Janina9 March 2011 at 07:07

    this is such a nice Blazer, love the print! it suits you so great!
    You two look amazing and Happy Anniversary to you!

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  32. char10 March 2011 at 10:31

    love the blazer - i picked up a cropped pale blue vgersion of the bird print blazer in h&M a few wks ago and i LOVE it!

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  33. Nad @ http://hijab-on-point.blogspot.com11 March 2011 at 12:18

    Congratulations Halima :))
    Thought u were Moroccan because of ur look and ur name! LOVE ur blog!

    Much Love,
    Nad

    http://hijab-on-point.blogspot.com/

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  34. Katherine11 March 2011 at 17:14

    happy anniversary! beautiful outfit and perfect for the occasion. i'm also in a mixed relationship, so feel you on that - but it's totally worth it.

    www.featherfactor.com

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  35. Behind the curtain12 March 2011 at 20:00

    Great blog, I'd be glad if you look also at my past ...

    http://behindthecurtainblog.blogspot.com/

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  36. Princess Feef14 March 2011 at 03:37

    Awwwwww <3 i love u girl happy a

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  37. franki14 March 2011 at 15:43

    Aww congratulations lovely! Hope you had a wonderful day, you both look so happy! (and yes, Mr Designer Spray definitely has good taste - that blazer is fab!)

    Can't believe there are still people out there take issue with interracial relationships - how pathetic! Clearly the colour of someones skin is completely irrelevant when you fall in love; it's a shame that more people don't realise that.

    xxx

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  38. Claire M15 March 2011 at 18:31

    Great post! COngrats on the anniversary. Love your attitude!! You also look fierce as always!!
    x

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  39. Anonymous22 March 2011 at 22:49

    i love your cardi so cute x

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  40. Unknown6 April 2011 at 10:20

    WOW! This post is so deep! At 1st i was taken aback by the fact u said u were married already and looking at you, i thought u were young! Like, TOO young to be married so i just assumed it was arranged (stereotypes in check,my apologies) but wow! You're just the bravest lil trooper i know and i'm proud of the choice u made. It can't be easy

    Xisses, Onyxsta
    http://say-bleurgh.blogspot.com

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  41. Safira Says 28 December 2011 at 11:55

    This post is lovely! Four years down the line you are happy and in love, and that is all that matters. F*** the haters. You will always get that narrow-mindedness, but what is it to them if you are happy?
    Unfortunately certain places still have that backwards attitude, but in places like London it is so common place to have mixed couples people don't even bat an eyelid. You shouldn't have to have that struggle, but unfortunately it will take time for people to change.
    Congrats to you both, you look so in love! x

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